How To Avoid The Friend Zone By Establishing Sexual Value

For a romantic relationship to happen between a man and a woman, a physical attraction and an emotional connection must exist. Unfortunately, if you’re in the “just friends” category then the chances of her being physically attracted to you are quite slim.

If there’s one technique that I treasure the most when it comes to avoiding the friend zone it’s what I call the ESV technique, or Establishing Sexual Value. Doing this does wonders for increasing both the physical attraction and emotional connection between you two. The beauty of it is that running ESV on a friend you’re interested in romantically and/or sexually is quite simple.

Imagine this for a moment: when she starts talking about other guys to you (how cute they are, how good they looked in that shirt, etc.) what do you do?

Most men will just quietly sit there and listen to the girl of their dreams yap about some other guy that makes them all hot. They get bothered and flustered, and have no idea how to react, so they do nothing.

Running the ESV technique simply means that you stop doing that IMMEDIATELY and responding back with your own story.

Why? Because by talking to you about other guys, it’s an indication that for her, you have low (or even zero) sexual value. And by saying nothing in return, you are not helping increase your own sexual value. And as a man who is interested in her, you cannot afford to do this. When you respond back with a sexual story of your own, however, she will automatically get feelings of jealousy — and that is to your advantage.

If you want to know how turn a friend to a girlfriend, then you’re going to need to develop sexual attraction from her (I talk about this in “Escaping The Friend Zone” in detail). So the idea of the ESV technique is to turn the tables on her and start talking about other women.

How does it work? Well, chances are that the girl of your dreams has an idea that you’re interested in her romantically. Maybe not consciously, but a woman’s intuition is sharp enough to know who’s interested in them and who isn’t. She’s used to getting attention to you in a platonic sort of way, and she enjoys it.

By cutting off that subtle attention you’re giving her and putting it somewhere else (by talking about other women), you are effectively cutting off her source of good feelings. Her happy source will suddenly disappear. And because getting attention from someone induces all sorts of addictive chemicals in the brain, she will want to get that attention back. That’s why jealousy, in most cases, make someone more attached to a person.

Of course, she’s not going to know what’s happening to her. She’s simply going to want to get you back on focusing on her, and she’s not really going to know or understand why. She will start developing feelings of unconscious attraction — and my friend, unconscious attraction ALWAYS TRUMPS conscious attraction any day.

So what do you do? It’s simple. When she starts talking about other guys, stay calm and listen patiently. When your turn to talk comes, calmly mention your story as a way to relate to her. Be extremely descriptive — just about to the point when she starts to get uncomfortable.

This works beautifully because by telling your story in response, she’s forced to listen to it. And by being graphic about the details, she won’t be able to help but picture you in her head along with your story. Women love fairy tales, and they excercise their imaginations by daydreaming and fantasizing.

She WILL picture you in her head, and this does WONDERS in establishing your sexual value and avoiding the friend zone. All of a sudden, harmless Joe becomes sexy stud. You know that you are successful when she 1.) tells you that you are too graphic, 2.) appears withdrawn or there’s a moment of silence, or 3.) she attacks the girl in your story in some way or form (it’s a defensive mechanism that tells you it worked).

If you want to know how to avoid the friend zone, then making her jealous and running the ESV technique will do wonders. She will see you as a sexual creature instead of just a harmless nobody — and women get together with guys they can see themselves having sexual intimacy with. So do yourself some favors and start making some women jealous today!

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