Here’s a basic truth that you must understand if you want to have a chance to turn a friend into a girlfriend.
Women (and all people, in general) put everyone in their lives into separate categories.
Think about this for a minute. Isn’t this something that you do yourself?
Your close friends family is in the personal category, who knows everything about you. Your other set of friends is in another, basically sharing your social life with. They don’t necessarily know everything about you, but you enjoy doing the same activities together. At the same time, you have people who belong in the professional category. These are people you go to work or school with.
These categories stay in place, and once someone’s has defined their place in it, you don’t mix and match them. Coworkers stay as coworkers, friends stay as friends, and family stays as family. Wouldn’t you find it weird if a coworker you’ve never spoken to before suddenly starts being chummy with you and acting like he’s part of your social life?
Now here’s what you need to get. The main difference between men and women is this: women actually have a separate category for romantic interests, while men tend to blur the romance category in between professional and social categories. In other words, we have just three categories, while women have four.
Men will tend to pluck their romantic interests from the personal, social or professional category and keep them there. Meanwhile, a woman consciously decides whether you are deserving to be put in the romantic category before she even considers the thought of getting together with you.
With this in mind, do you see why so many guys fail in trying to turn a friend to a girlfriend? They get overly involved in one category — by acting as her therapist and solving her problems (personal), feigning interest the same things that she’s interested in (social) or using work/school as an excuse to get close to her (professional).
Guys who get put in the friend zone approach women they’re interested in and unintentionally work themselves deep into a particular category — whether they’re aware of it or not!
If you want to have any chance of turning a friend to a girlfriend, then you need to:
- Realize what category you’re currently in, and
- Slowly work yourself into the romantic category
As soon as you realize that this is your mission, then everything should be downhill from there on.
In another article, we’ll discuss how to do just this, as well as the common mistakes that men make that make women nail them down to a certain category. For now, just realize that this is your main mission. Once you do, you’ll be ahead of the rest of the pack who have the same mission as you do.
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